Answers to Common Questions about Awakening
How do I surrender?
What can I do about all the fear I'm feeling on the awakening path?
There is a lot of fear and terror that can arise at times on the awakening path. For some people fear is one the major challenges throughout the unravelling process and for others it just arises from occasionally, particularly when the false self is starting to let go of control.Like everything uncomfortable that arises on the path, the fear will need to be faced, but you can ease into it. Try allowing yourself one minute to really go into it, to feel it fully, to not be distracted by anything else. Then take a break. Notice how you're ok, nothing bad happened, it's just an emotion. Try to dig into the fear more and more.
What is Non-duality or Oneness?
Everything is the one consciousness and nothing can be separate from it. Non-duality means not separate, or only one. Oneness means there is only one consciousness. Everything is God/Brahman/Source/The All That Is - the unborn and the undying, but also manifested into form. Nothing can be apart from it - literally nothing. A murderer, the wind, an annoying noise, a flower. When you have the shift where you're living from Unity Consciousness, then this is how you perceive the world. You are unable to see anything else as separate from you. You see yourself, as God, everywhere.
Why do I feel so alone?
A very painful part of the awakening journey. Not only can you become more physically alone with people in your life dropping away, the unbelievable aloneness cycles around and around, going deeper each time. There is a lot to be learnt through this aloneness. You learn that you don't need anyone else, you let go of your unhealthy attachments to others, you learn how to be completly independent, you take responsibilty for your life.
Do I need a spiritual teacher/guru/mentor?
It is helpful at times to have someone that is further along on the path, to help keep you accountable. It is very easy for the ego to hide out, thinking that it's working hard towards awakening, when you're not really making much progress.
How do I trust the awakening process?
If you have trauma around trust, it can be challenging to trust the awakening process. You are giving up your life to the unknown. This can be scary, particularly if you feel you've trusted the wrong person in the past like a fake teacher/cult leader/false prophet. You may have trouble trusting your judgement, particularly around spiritual matters. Working through the layers of trauma and karma around trust can really help. Learning to trust your inner guru and find the truth for yourself is very important but this can be difficult initially. It can help to work with a therapist or healer that can help you to tune into this inner knowing.
I feel like I'm not getting anywhere with awakening, how can I progress?
This might be for a variety of reasons but most commonly I find that people stop making progress if they're not doing the deep psychological healing work required on the awakening path or they've done therapy/healing but are not going deep enough into shadow work.
Why am I crying all the time during awakening?
It is normal to cry a lot during an awakening. The crying is a healing and cleansing process, helping layers to the illusory false self to drop away. The heart is cleansed over and over, allowing for a deeper capacity of emotions to be felt.
Why am I losing motivation and feel flat all the time?
As we venture further on the awakening path we may start to notice that our motivation to do things begins to wane. We may have had all these ideas about what we wanted to achieve, but now they don't seem as interesting, or there is no energy to start engaging in the activites.
Is the world an illusion?
This teaching seems to do the rounds and cause a lot of confusion. We can sense a world is here so how can it be an illusion? Even if we close our eyes it doesn’t disappear- we can still smell, hear and feel the world.
So the world is there. The formless manifested into form - Earth and all her beings. God being the sun, a rock, the air, a baby. Everything we can sense is there in the world of form.
The illusion is our perception of the world. When we perceive the world through a conditioned mind, believing we are a separate person, we are unable to see the world for what it truly is.
When a crow flies past we see our idea of a crow - a label and whatever we’ve been taught about crows. We see something separate to ourselves. This is the illusion.
Imagine if the crow flew past and you just experienced it directly - no labels, just an energy moving through awareness. A part of awareness moving past another point of awareness, observing itself.
Awakening gives you chance to see the world for what it truly is - billions of different points of awareness for the Divine to know itself.
Reality is the world we know, just without the overlay created by the conditioned mind.